A user is consistently harassing me. I have warned them and they continued

  • $\begingroup$ I am in major need of help from a mod $\endgroup$ Jan 25 '19 at 1:33
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    $\begingroup$ consider flagging a mod using one example. $\endgroup$ Jan 25 '19 at 2:04
  • $\begingroup$ I have and they closed it $\endgroup$ Jan 25 '19 at 2:05
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    $\begingroup$ Not much to be done then, beyond constant flagging. If you need mod help flags are the way to go. $\endgroup$ Jan 25 '19 at 2:07
  • $\begingroup$ i can't because they downvoted me to 11 taking away flaging $\endgroup$ Jan 25 '19 at 2:08
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    $\begingroup$ If it's any comfort all my questions were downvoted within one minute yesterday... this kind of thing does happen, unfortunately. $\endgroup$ Jan 25 '19 at 2:12
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    $\begingroup$ Luna, in the future please refrain from calling out specific users in public. The behavior of the other user was not harassing, but your reactions were inappropriate. You'll get the hang of how we interact if you continue to hang out with us. $\endgroup$
    – rob Mod
    Jan 25 '19 at 2:33
  • $\begingroup$ he actually was he said I knew nothing about dimentions and said i could just read wikipedia $\endgroup$ Jan 25 '19 at 2:35
  • $\begingroup$ for the record it is since I am on the autistic spectrum $\endgroup$ Jan 25 '19 at 2:36
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    $\begingroup$ Even though this is a different situation, I think the core of it is the same thing as this question (and perhaps others), so I would mark it as a duplicate. $\endgroup$
    – David Z
    Jan 25 '19 at 3:02
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    $\begingroup$ Flag his post or comment, mods will handle it. They will likely don't say, what they did. If the harassment don't stop, you can go here to the meta. But in the rare cases as it happened to me, it always stopped. $\endgroup$
    – peterh
    Jan 25 '19 at 7:55
  • $\begingroup$ I reported all of their comments and it took too long $\endgroup$ Jan 25 '19 at 19:31
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    $\begingroup$ Regarding "it took too long": the average flag-handling time by the diamond moderators over the past month is a couple of hours, which is about what it took to find and process the flags that you cast yesterday. $\endgroup$
    – rob Mod
    Jan 25 '19 at 23:47
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    $\begingroup$ @Luna Regarding your 'about me', "...takes downvotes as rude", it's very strongly encouraged that on SE, downvotes should not be taken personally. They are not meant as attacks and should not be perceived as rude. People downvote a lot (self included), and it's the mechanism for keeping the quality of content high. When you're downvoted, don't think that it's someone disliking you. First, consider if your post has something dis-likable to it. If you can't see any problems, then shrug it off because there are so many votes being cast and some of them could be misfires. $\endgroup$
    – user191954
    Jan 26 '19 at 9:55
  • $\begingroup$ @Chair I never got to finishing that. thanks for reminding me to finnish that $\endgroup$ Jan 28 '19 at 19:30

There's very little to add to this moderator comment:

if somebody's rude to you in the comments, there's no internet law that says you have to win the argument. If you see something particularly unpleasant, flag for moderator attention; then disengage. It'll be okay, I promise.

If you feel that you're being harassed, or that some other user is being rude or abusive (or just unwelcoming in some way), this meta isn't a good venue for it. Just flag the comment and disengage.

It's important to note that, while flagging is a privilege obtained at 15 reputation (and lost if you go below that for whatever reason), this is not the case for comment threads where you're participating: if you can comment on a post, then you can also flag comments on that post.

It's probably important to say this explicitly: several of your comments are on pretty gray areas, and they indicate that your side of the interactions has not been blameless either (and that's only with the comments which are currently visible right now). The fact that (you perceive that) others are being rude or abusive does not mean that you can reply with similar stuff. It can indeed be hard to turn away, but it's crucial to do so: flag the comments and walk away. A moderator will be there shortly to resolve the situation, and it won't help if they also have to deal with a lot of stuff from your side of the comments as well.

  • $\begingroup$ I can only comment on my questions $\endgroup$ Jan 25 '19 at 19:32
  • $\begingroup$ everyone can comment on their own $\endgroup$ Jan 25 '19 at 19:34
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    $\begingroup$ I voted to close the question as a duplicate so that future readers will be pointed to a relevant related resource, but I do think this is a very useful answer. $\endgroup$
    – David Z
    Jan 25 '19 at 20:50
  • $\begingroup$ i think because of it being a good question it should have a higher vote than it has $\endgroup$ Jan 30 '19 at 19:45

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